I was having a late night chat with my favourite person, Miss Charlotte, last night, about our dreams & I came to the realisation that a very LARGE & important part of mine, is having a partner. Which, startled me in a way. I'd always been such a feminist growing up, fully under the belief, that "you don't need a partner to complete you," but now, well, I kinda feel the opposite.
I want to share my life with someone, to share the highs & take comfort in their arms during the lows. I've grown & developed over the past year, during my travels & I'm confident in myself & what I'm capable of, but sometimes, it's hard to do it all alone.
I do think it's important to enter into a relationship on equal footing, knowing you are quite capable of being on your own, but appreciating being with someone else. There is nothing more damaging in a relationship, than being reliant on someone else to make you happy. It only serves to build up resentment & dependency, which wrecks a relationship like a bad case of woodworm.
Equally so, it's important to have a strong & healthy relationship with yourself, before you can have one with anyone else. How could you ever accept someone's love, if you aren't capable of loving yourself, as you are, flaws & all.
Your partner should be your best friend, you should inspire each other, encourage each other, care for each other, be there for each other & LOVE each other, completely & unconditionally. There is no compromise. With billions of people in this world, there is someone, who fits with you like a jigsaw piece, who balances you out, who makes you want to be alive, to live, to breath, to feel, just because they're there & they make the world better.
I've had countless relationships start, then crash & burn before even becoming legitimate. I've given my heart away, like a goody bag at the end of a kid's birthday party & had it shredded into confetti, on numerous occasions. I'm done with dead ends & poor choices, I'm ready, ready for the end goal. To find someone, who completes me, who fulfills me, who makes my life whole.
If they happen to be brown-eyed, bearded, have a penchant for skinny jeans & happen to be open to living in Paris, then all the better.
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